Are you a cuckold fetishist??
In contrast to the traditional definition of a cuckold as a married man whose wife cheats on him without his knowledge, a cuckold fetishist is aware of his partner's activity and derives sexual pleasure from it. This knowledge and tolerance of his partners activities makes the male in such relationships a wittol, properly speaking. But among fetishists the pose of reluctance—the victimization of the cuckold—is a major element of the kink so the more familiar word is used. In the fetish cuckolding subculture, the female is typically sexually dominant, while the male takes on a submissive role, only becoming involved with her or her partner when she permits it—sometimes remaining altogether celibate. Other arrangements are certainly possible, however.
The desire for the male to enjoy being cuckolded is more related to sexual gratification and less about interpersonal ideals. Sometimes this is part of the their sexual fantasy because they gain sexual arousal through being humiliated. Other times the husband finds pleasure through that of his wife. In a broader context, the contrast between a cuckold and the additional male participant is sometimes used to summarize an individual's personality or behavior and the variability commonly seen in male libidos: the cuckold or beta male suggesting a lack of masculinity or alpha male representing that missing masculinity.
The wife and extramarital participant may both enjoy attempting to actively include him in the act of cuckolding as much as possible through serving her. Some common themes include praising her appearance, attempting to stimulate her sexually at the same time as the additional participant, and generally being engrossed in her enjoyment. It is common for the male to be more absorbed with the female's pleasure than his own. It is common for a cuckold to perform cunnilingus immediately after his wife has had engaged in sexual relations with the extramarital participant. This is called "cleaning up" and often involves facesitting.
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